New year, new goals, but be kind to yourself!

New year, new goals, but be kind to yourself.

As the new year approaches, many of us think about resolutions, those promises we make to ourselves to do things differently or better. For early years leaders, the idea of setting goals can feel both exciting and overwhelming. On one hand, a new year can bring a fresh start, a chance to reflect on achievements, and the opportunity to grow. On the other, it can feel like another pressure on top of an already busy role.  

It’s important to remember that being kind to yourself is just as valuable as any goal you set. You lead teams, care for children, and often carry a lot of responsibility. There is no rule that says you must have a long list of resolutions. Sometimes, simply acknowledging what you have achieved and giving yourself credit is enough.  

SMART goals with a gentle twist
If you do choose to set goals, one helpful approach is to think about them as SMART inspired: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, but with a gentle twist. Specific means knowing exactly what you want to work on, but don’t make it rigid; allow room for flexibility. Measurable helps you notice progress, not just perfection. Achievable reminds you to be realistic – it’s okay if your goal is small. Relevant ensures your goal matters to you and your team, and Time-bound gives you a gentle timeline rather than a strict deadline.  

Setting resolutions can have real benefits. They give us focus, a sense of purpose, and motivation to try new things. For early years leaders, goals might be about building stronger team relationships, introducing a new initiative, or finding time for self-care. But the pressure to succeed can sometimes overshadow the joy of progress. That’s why reflection is key: celebrate small wins, notice what works, and be willing to adjust if things don’t go exactly as planned.  

Above all, remember that self-compassion is not a weakness. Treat yourself with the same patience and kindness that you show the children, families, and colleagues around you. Goals are tools, not measures of worth. Whether you make a list of resolutions or simply take a quiet moment to reflect, allow yourself to step into the new year with both ambition and care.  

This year, let your resolutions, if you choose to have them, inspire, not pressure you. And always give yourself permission to be human. After all, growth happens one gentle step at a time.