Our colleague Alison bravely spoke about coping with grief:
My personal mental journey came into focus when I suddenly lost my husband last year to cancer – it was quick, brutal, and devastating.
Nothing can really prepare you for losing someone you dearly love – Graham and I had been together 30 years and was truly my best friend.
Nearly a year on I can function, smile, laugh and build new memories with our daughter.
Grief is a journey and personal to those travelling along the road – there is no right or wrong way to go and often it can feel if you backwards more than forwards!
Below are some of things I have learnt on the way:
1. Take good care of yourself – I try to walk outside every day and use Health Shield for massages
2. Embrace the support of others – talking about a memory or sharing a particularly difficult day can really help
3. Surround yourself with people who care – it does not have to be family – I am surrounded by both my local friends and Realise ‘family’ too
4. Do not rush into major decisions, postpone them where you can – this one can be harder to learn – I did too much too fast and was exhausted – most decisions can wait at least 24 hours if not a week or two
5. Consider grief and bereavement counselling and support groups – I go to counselling once a month and it is sad, but it is good to see how far I have come and cry more if I need to
6. Take control of your new life – Remember it is okay to enjoy yourself again!